Go Learn Some Manners and Come Back

It is so irritating to meet someone who is physically with you by mentally on his multi-dimensional virtual smart device or phone either playing gamers, chatting or reading.

If you are one of those please acquire some meeting’s manners and I will be joyful to sit with you.

You are one of them if you act as below:

  1. You don’t look into my eyes when we are doing a conversation cause you are focusing on your devices
  2. Your conversation is somehow very scarce or it passes by many silent phases
  3. You don’t follow the conversation and many times you ask to repeat the last idea, as you were concentrating on your typing and reading notes or chatting pop ups
  4. You Laugh or act inconsistently with the course of the discussion as you were concentrating on your device chatting
  5. You lean your head down to your smart device, whereas it should be for your creator and God!
  6. You ask for internet connection and power plug-in before you rest your body in a coffee shop

Where are we going with this digital world? the illusionist place is better than the living human world? Go back to your senses and communicate face to face?

So next time you want to meet me, learn some manners about human communications and hide your smart device in your bag for sure!

Waking Up with a Stranger or Life Companion?

We all hear the following sentences about a couple in love: “they are so cute”, “they are crazy in love with one another”, “Nothing will stand between with such love”, “Oh, that couples love is eternal”. Does usually such love last forever? Did it fail after a certain period of time? what happened to these couples when love ceased to exist? Who took the custody of their offspring, if they were married? did they stand each other or that cute couple resumed their separate lives? Whom is taking the blame? – noting that some love really goes infinite and inspiring.

I am posing many recursive day-to-day questions to say that love should not be the only bond for the two lovers to end up with marriage – or at least cohabitation for the ones who don’t believe in marriage -, they should take their time and  look for other common qualities or baseline so that if one day that breath taking flame is put off, both can walk the talk when they declared “Yes, I Do!” and live happy ever after.

There is no sealed best selling list in which a check box on “comply” or “do not comply” for all living human beings, cause in every person to can find some are distinctive and in others none is in pure state. Once you are still in love you take as long as it takes to look for your partner’s behavior and characters that you feel comfortable with and maybe could be common between both of you. You should be wise enough to assess the cons of the other characteristics that you do not adore or mostly despise. This search and dissection over time are very crucial if you reached a stage where marriage proposal is around the corner or maybe fixed too. As stated before, if there are not enough characteristics in your partner that you can admire, you will not overcome that period after the extinction of love. Both lovers will play blame game, stress will poison the air and affect their children attitudes and spirits for a long time, plus their actions will repel their friends cause both sides judgment will be very subjective and blind, without forgetting the partner’s parents being envisaged as horrible to visit, listen to, or even salute.

What every independent persons seeks to find in his parents, colleagues, or even in his best friend should also apply to his lover as he will be his companion till death separates them. To name some qualities that we admire: freedom of choice and decision, trustworthy, intelligence, open in his communication to a certain limits, caring one, a bit romantic, dependable, amusing, down to earth, outgoing to certain extend, generous, selfless, fairly preventative, sociable, and maybe poetic if one is lucky.

For sure it will be much easier for both parties if they know each other since long time, they know the ups and downs in their course of life – this can shorten the time to judge -, even knowing the parents can make that after love era pass smoothly and with no suffering as they will play a role in your life even if not planned. One could say why all that trouble? One can divorce or separate from his partner whenever the bond is lost. Why do you take marriage so lightly – not from religious perspective? But what about your children? You want them to walk that path of divorce and mutual accusation along the way? Do you want your parents to be dragged too besides your friends to the dispute? If you like to fill divorce papers, and show up in courts, and you have enough money to spread, than please be my guest and rush into your bride to be and ask for the secret vow! If you are a reasonable person, you reflect slowly and objectively and act upon, cause these days the rate of divorce is so high that one can buy stock and invest some money in!

Too Much Indifferent!

Today I will make my blog short and run to embrace my day.

You are an indifferent person. Yes, You are. Hold your horses dear  before mocking me, how did you know that you are totally the opposite, and in worse case surely not close to that? Are you certain?

What you did when you knew that one of your family members was sick or not well? Did you come to him in person on every occasion to pass time, help, standby and lift his morals with no repetitive sneaking on your watch? Or you just called him and asked about him over the phone and maybe send him flowers to wish him fast recovery and good health?

How did you act when you saw an old man or woman leaning on the cane in a park either standing or sitting on a bench? Did you salute? Did you make a lengthy discussion with them and share funny jokes with? Or did you ditch you head and eyes in your smart phone and pass by with maximum a phony smile? or maybe salute them on you way?

How did you react when you knew that some families around your neighborhood are really in bad shape and requires food, clean water to drink, blankets to expel cold, people to defend and stand by? Did you spontaneously answered your inner voice and rushed helping, giving, or standing by and maybe asking for their friendship? Or just sighed and calmed yourself with “OH God! Hope someone will help these poor creature soon” or you were furious and shouted “these poor people are growing day by day! Where is the government to look after them!”?

I will stop giving scenarios cause I am sure you will stop reading my blog instantaneously if not already ditched.

Now tell me if I were too fast to judge you or just hit by luck the right flaw that you wished you could act differently at that time? wake up and start being active in your family, block, and in your society. Don’t wait for someone else to initiate and you to follow.

Swimming Against or Fastest than the Current?

We usually hear, watch, or read about famous historical figures, inventors who changed the world, industrial men who improved the way of living for communities once turning over the industry, or yet better musicians who composed heavenly masterpieces. These names are very few compared to their rivals in their time in any phase in history. Why we only read, hear, or see sculptures of those in particular? Is it because they were pioneers in what they do? Is it because they challenged the way the communities think or interact? Is that they helped the civilization in evolving for better future? Or is it that because they swam against the current? – I will exclude the brave patriots, national heroes, and martyrs who changed the course of their own countries and I shall speak about them in a different blog in future.

In every era there are many scholars, inventors, musicians, revolutionaries – to name few – who try to do something creative, new, angelic but handful number succeed to be noted and mentioned in history books or any other eternal scripts. Were they remarkable survivals in such way that they were able to swim against the current and reached their goals? Or Were they strong swimmers in such a way they were always the fastest and the first to arrive to shore? One could say, both have the same result which is been noted and acknowledged as elites, so why to care about their ways. I say No, there are two categories of those noticeable figures, some were excellent swimmers and the rest were remarkable survivals; but yes, all reached their goals to be spoken about till life on earth ceased to exist.

The excellent pioneer swimmers are those who were following the general trend of doing actions, but they were noticeably hard workers, non stoppable, undefeated, and persistent with defined targets such that they reached their goals faster than others and they were granted eternal memorial. They wanted to go from point A to point B in a very convenient, efficient, remarkable, and fast methods and make use of the current to reach their destinations. I will be careful in enlisting few examples, for instance the athletes, the politicians, the regulators and law makers, the reporters and writers, the actors, and the teachers.

The remarkable original survival swimmers who were swimming against the current are the ones who hold revolutionary ideas, challenged the community way of thinking or living, deviated the course of civilization, improved one’s knowledge and ethics, in such a way the history cannot avoid passing near without enlisting their names in the eternal journal. They really challenged the current and swam against it from point A to uncertain point B, but they were so original in their ways and methods that the current didn’t defeat them but it made them more willful to touch their goals and prove their ways to be creative and first spoken about. One should clearly state that the acceptance of their colleagues or societies were in some extend not easy on them and not believing in their courses till they reached their destinations an proved their original methods. Also here to name few in caution, the scientists, the engineers and architects, the artists and painters, the philosophers, the sociologists, and the prophets.

One of the many thoughts or ideas of any single human being – of course me too! – is to be recognized and acknowledged either as pioneer or remarkable survival, – better yet as survival – and surely live to witness the day in which he is admitted by all to join the list of everlasting names in history. Being also remarked after one’s death can bring benefits and pride for his family and encounters in limited scale if we don’t want to magnify the result on larger scale. One can only follow his determined way to reach his defined objective in serving either a noble cause, or improving any sector in humanity, etc… Let us all be exceptional swimmers either with or against the current and history will mark us either in our course of live or after.

Eat Love Pray or Aid Educate Preach?

I read last year the book of Elizabeth Gilbert titled “Eat Pray Love” and I admired how this lady made the difficult path to pursue what she really wants in life on personal level. Plus I loved how in every culture she was experiencing one of these strong verbs, the art of pleasure in Italy, the art of devotion in India, and last which is the balance between the two in Indonesia. Then as usual, I posed for a second and asked myself that in a disturbed world like ours how can I reflect this excellent verbs to help this universe be a bit better place? My mind quickly equated the Eat with Aid, the Love with Educate, and the Pray with Preach.

 

Let me elaborate more how by fulfilling these three substitutes not only you will benefit but all the surrounding too.

 

Aid which is substituting Eat will satisfy my inner self and will help the poor community members feel noticed and can see that that are not forgotten or neglected. Now, how this can be done? Easy, don’t go far! In all communities there are poor families, needy widows, elderly care. So simply save on weekly basis money and ask all of your family and friends – politely – if they can contribute, then buy food or necessary living requirements.  On every Saturday or Sunday deliver them personally to these people with a smile and humbleness. If you will tell me what one will gain, I will gladly shout that I feel not hungry, as I consumed the happiness in their eyes, the humble nodding of their heads, and the hidden tears on their eyes.

 

Educate which comes instead of Love will prosper and propagate happiness in all participants and attendees. How can we reach that state? Every time you teach an unfortunate child how to pronounce alphabets, how to write and compose sentences, how to do basic mathematical equations and from that you dig deeper as per your availability and passion, you will see how this angel will look at you with open heart, boundless happiness, utmost respect, and infinite love. And if you investigate more, you will know that you are his nominated hero as your name will always be attached in any sentence coming out of his vocals because he is adoring you.

 

Last by not least, Preach will replace Pray. Here I don’t ask people to preach religious beliefs, I am asking people to preach love, awareness, solidarity, humbleness, ethics, and kindness. When all your acts reflect humbleness, when you give with no return, when you teach with a smile and energy in a open air so called class, when you aid an elder to walk in a park and visit him frequently, everyone you helped him in the way will be praying for you.

 

Now, by that completed we all ate and reached the utmost pleasure, loved and skyrocketing the notion of devotion, and prayed each one in his way in moderation or in extreme measure as no boundaries for these boundless verbs.

Biased Equality or Biased Viewpoint?

We have been overwhelmed with the necessity, righteousness, ethical, and just calls, laws, and reminders to treat any female as any other male with equal opportunities, promotions, responsibilities at work; and to share house shores, uprising offsprings, and bills payment among female and her male. I, as a male, appologize for the long repetitive unjust, abusing and maltreating centuries to all females till -officially- recent decades that our male encestors follow either purposely or unpurposely.

That being said, one needs to look at both sides or parties of the equation to be balanced. If I step into the males side and look from their perspective, I can see that females are getting their birthrights to be treated equal as males plus other priviledges that males do not. Let us list some, for instance a male is the one who proposed for his beloved female for marriage and certainly sometime he gets rejected which puts him in an uncomfortable situation. Whereas in divorce, both parties can initate the process as both are elligible to trigger it. So the core question is that: why a female cannot or donnot propose for her male lover? -Noting that in some rare cases she does- Is that our customs were always visualizing the male as action taker or that we are trying our best to limit the embarressement or unsecure situations from the gentle sex?

We, again to strengthen on male side, do comprehend that physcially female is weaker than male, that is why we lift their luggages, open heavy doors and do heavy tasks. We also perfectly embrace the reality that solely the female holds the embrion till being fully developed and delivered, but what is not so reasonable these days is why she gets 3 to 6 month maternity leave whereas her husband will be getting maximum couple of weeks in very developed countries? Isn’t it that he will be contributing with his female in baby sitting and development of the the new baby born? Or her male will rush partying for the whole duration and he will be loudly sharing the story of how he became a daddy to his drinking camarades?

These two examples make males pose for a second and wonder if they are assessing the situation right or they are taking it too much biased and maybe should ask their fellows or families if they share the same view? But at that exact point, they hesitate and ingore the whole idea and life goes on.

Can I Trust You or You Are Faking It Out? Should I Ask for a Second Rendezvous?

Do you wonder most of the time whenever you meet a new person, or you come across an old colleague from kindergarten or primary school classes, if this person is authentic or faking it up to look cool and impressive? or even seems boring, arrogant, not talkative to leave him alone and forget about him? I know I do have a second thought about it everytime I encounter this kind of person. – in this post a person is “masculin singular”, so I will be refering to he or him although it is the same case for all gender e.g. she or her.

Why we always hear that first impression is the one that stamps someone character as cool, outgoing, boring, humorous, frank, or even terrible to be around? What if this person has passed a bad or long exhausting day, or had just been feeling calm and happy that day when you met? Can I build my “judgement” on his character in one occasion that can occur from barely one to maximum ten minutes? Even the beauty pageants are tested on multiple rounds in different dresses althought the main focus is on physical beauty that is much easier to enlist compared to one’s character.

So why I need to “judge” people from first short encounternment? Why I don’t pass with him a period of time and in different situations and various days to dare to draft one’s character? Is it that I don’t have the patience to ask for second and third meeting or that I am pretty sure he matches the character I have drafted? Why I need to issue my sentence so in haste? is it because everyone is becoming impatient? And “time is money” and I can’t spare more time to socialize and pass time with this person before I categorize him? Am I so wise, intelligent and swift to have the output ready and hard-coded in less than 10 minutes as any intelligent application on my mobile or smart device?

A thought of mind, why the person that you have not seen since ages tries to leave an impression on you? Does it mean he is looking for second rendezvous or at least to just to be a nice experience that you may tell your friends about? And from the other extremes, just to leave him alone and don’t think of asking for a second meeting? Why some unplanned meetings goes either very fine and others go very odd? Is that we act natural as we don’t have time to prepare or we prefer our life well prepared, well scheduled, well planned? Or that also that person is also like you and have his own quick, intelligent, impatient, and stamped decisions in similar occasion?