We all hear the following sentences about a couple in love: “they are so cute”, “they are crazy in love with one another”, “Nothing will stand between with such love”, “Oh, that couples love is eternal”. Does usually such love last forever? Did it fail after a certain period of time? what happened to these couples when love ceased to exist? Who took the custody of their offspring, if they were married? did they stand each other or that cute couple resumed their separate lives? Whom is taking the blame? – noting that some love really goes infinite and inspiring.
I am posing many recursive day-to-day questions to say that love should not be the only bond for the two lovers to end up with marriage – or at least cohabitation for the ones who don’t believe in marriage -, they should take their time and look for other common qualities or baseline so that if one day that breath taking flame is put off, both can walk the talk when they declared “Yes, I Do!” and live happy ever after.
There is no sealed best selling list in which a check box on “comply” or “do not comply” for all living human beings, cause in every person to can find some are distinctive and in others none is in pure state. Once you are still in love you take as long as it takes to look for your partner’s behavior and characters that you feel comfortable with and maybe could be common between both of you. You should be wise enough to assess the cons of the other characteristics that you do not adore or mostly despise. This search and dissection over time are very crucial if you reached a stage where marriage proposal is around the corner or maybe fixed too. As stated before, if there are not enough characteristics in your partner that you can admire, you will not overcome that period after the extinction of love. Both lovers will play blame game, stress will poison the air and affect their children attitudes and spirits for a long time, plus their actions will repel their friends cause both sides judgment will be very subjective and blind, without forgetting the partner’s parents being envisaged as horrible to visit, listen to, or even salute.
What every independent persons seeks to find in his parents, colleagues, or even in his best friend should also apply to his lover as he will be his companion till death separates them. To name some qualities that we admire: freedom of choice and decision, trustworthy, intelligence, open in his communication to a certain limits, caring one, a bit romantic, dependable, amusing, down to earth, outgoing to certain extend, generous, selfless, fairly preventative, sociable, and maybe poetic if one is lucky.
For sure it will be much easier for both parties if they know each other since long time, they know the ups and downs in their course of life – this can shorten the time to judge -, even knowing the parents can make that after love era pass smoothly and with no suffering as they will play a role in your life even if not planned. One could say why all that trouble? One can divorce or separate from his partner whenever the bond is lost. Why do you take marriage so lightly – not from religious perspective? But what about your children? You want them to walk that path of divorce and mutual accusation along the way? Do you want your parents to be dragged too besides your friends to the dispute? If you like to fill divorce papers, and show up in courts, and you have enough money to spread, than please be my guest and rush into your bride to be and ask for the secret vow! If you are a reasonable person, you reflect slowly and objectively and act upon, cause these days the rate of divorce is so high that one can buy stock and invest some money in!
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